April 20, 2015

I have been looking for a new partner since mid-2012. My success has been poor. Maybe it is the area I live in or my age. I have learned to give up pretending that you have to be who you used to be. – When times get tough, our worst battle is often between what we remember and what we presently feel.  One of the hardest decisions you will ever have to make is when to stay put and struggle harder or when to take your memories and move on.  Sometimes you have to step outside of the person you’ve been, and remember the person you were meant to be, the person you are capable of being, and the person you truly are today. That was a difficult process for me to learn.

I also learned to give up berating myself for everything I wasn't. – Being kind to yourself in thoughts, words and actions is as important as being kind to others.  Extend yourself this courtesy.  Love yourself – your real self.  Work through your fears (dive deep), your insecurities (speak honestly and loudly), and your anger (scream into the pillow – not into the mirror, nor the people you care about; they don’t deserve it.)  Instead of hurting yourself by hiding from your problems, help yourself grow beyond them.  That’s what self-care is all about.  It’s about facing the inner issues that make you believe that you are less than you are. 

Another task was to give up regretting, and holding on to, what happened in the past. – When you stay stuck in regret of the life and relationships that you think you should have had, you end up missing the beauty of what you do have.  Not all the puzzle pieces of life will seem to fit together at first, but in time you’ll realize they do, perfectly.  So thank the things that didn’t work out, because they just made room for the things that will.  As they say, every new beginning comes from another beginning’s end.

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