February 11, 2015

Seven Mistakes We Make in the Pursuit of Happiness #6

6.  We look for happiness in the wrong places.
A 24/7 obsession with finding happiness can cause us to focus on the wrong things, because we’re often poor judges of what will make us happy.
For example, we might think that buying a new house, being popular and having a certain amount of money will make us happy, so we strive relentlessly for them, but in reality, when we finally get these things, we still feel like something is missing.
It’s the old “I’ll be happy when I’ve got X” syndrome.  Except, when you do get X, you realize it’s not everything you expected.  It never is.
Does this sound familiar to you?
Perhaps it’s because we are constantly being sent messages from society and popular media telling us that X, Y & Z will make us happy.  We hear, “If you lose 10 pounds, you’ll be happy,” or, “If you have the latest smartphone, you’ll be happy,” or, “If you’re rich or popular, you’ll be happy.”  And because we’re so obsessed with finding happiness, we buy into it.
The truth is, these things don’t lead to a deep sense of happiness, and we’re often poor judges by believing they will.  True happiness comes from within yourself, not from something or someone else.  Don’t make the mistake of waiting on something or someone to come along and make you happy.

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